When faced with an unwanted pregnancy, there are three options. The mother can choose to put the child up for adoption, believing it is what’s best for the child. They may want to become a parent, own up to the responsibility. They might also choose to abort, accepting that they’re not ready.
Depending on who you talk to, one option is the right choice, and the others are mistakes. This is probably true in many situations. However, it dismisses the fact that no two unwanted pregnancies are exactly alike.
Consider this: if the mother is well off and wants the baby, parenting might be the right choice for her. If she doesn’t want the child or isn’t prepared for it, is keeping it and raising it the right move?
Parenting is the most stressful choice, but as of 2006, the most commonly chosen. Many women hope to count on the father or their friends and family for help in dealing with the stress, along with the financial burden.
Adoption is the least popular, again as of 2006. There are many theories on why this is the case. It can range from perceived difficulties in putting the child up for adoption to forming an attachment after carrying the baby to term.
Abortion sits in the middle. Whether this is due to a lack of awareness, a negative stigma surrounding the procedure, or lack of access to reliable means is hard to say.
The least likely option is a miscarriage. Statistically, only 2% of women with unwanted pregnancies have miscarriages.
Here’s a fact. Statistics show that 75% of women with unwanted pregnancies choose not to get any counselling before they decide.
This is problematic. A counsellor can help assess their situation, but also ease them into the reality of being pregnant. An advisor also provides better information on the options than others.
However, be aware that pregnancy counselling in Australia tends towards an anti-abortion stance. This can be distressing, if not traumatising, to a woman who is experiencing a very stressful change.